This conversation isn’t for everyone. And that’s okay. It’s for people who want more than access. More than consumption. More than temporary freedom. It’s for people who believe travel should expand our humanity not exploit someone else’s. My goal was to make you pause, reflect because I'm a firm believer in "you don't know what you don't know."

It’s the day after Christmas, and I just spent the holiday with my boyfriend’s family, a room full of people who were warm, loving, inviting, and kind. There was no tension, no spectacle, no trauma attached to me and my partner, or to his sister and her girlfriend. Everything was normal, we were just another couple at the party. The only differences noted was the fact that I was a foreigner who couldn't win an argument with a two year old in Portuguese.

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Somewhere along the way, we let the phrase “you can do anything” turn into a mandate instead of a possibility. It sounded empowering at first. It still does. Especially online. Especially when you’re watching people your age hit milestones, go viral, quit jobs, launch brands, move cities, and call it alignment. But the older I get — and the more rooms I’ve been in — the more I realize how many of us mistook access for assignment.

Over the last year, I learned something uncomfortable about being a Black queer creator navigating social media, brand partnerships, and the creator economy. And since my platform is built on honesty and community, it’s time I say it plainly: I spent a year trying to make my content more digestible for straight people — specifically straight women. Not because I wanted to, but because I thought I had to. They are the gatekeeper to the larger brands- they run the social teams

Our community would look very different if more older gay men chose mentorship over seduction. That’s a strong statement, I know. But the longer I’ve lived, the more I’ve realized how much weight it carries. A few years ago, while I was working at Hydrate in Chicago, I met someone by chance — a 20-year-old named Ontario. A mutual friend introduced us. We exchanged Instagrams the way you do in gay nightlife, and over time we started talking more. He’d tell me what it felt like

Ok, I’m finally ready to talk about the soft-to-hard launch timeline I dropped this year of me and my partner Rique’s relationship. If you think about it, in 2025, nothing says “it’s serious” quite like an Instagram post—but not too serious. Especially if you have over 100,000 followers. Yikes. This is the first relationship I’ve soft-to-hard launched in nearly seven years , and here’s my hot take: If you’re in a new relationship and wondering how to share it with the worl

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There are beach towns — and then there’s Morro de São Paulo. A tiny island off the coast of Brazil, it feels like the place you end up when your soul decides you need to unplug, unwind, and remember what joy feels like. I got off the boat and started singing "Little Town" by Beauty in the beast" (yes, I was that gay), but if you saw the center, you would to- it gives that vibe to the T. There are no cars in Morro — just sandy streets, barefoot wandering, and boats gliding in

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I was 21, living in Chicago, and had finally formed a little crew of adult friends in my new city. It felt like a grown-up milestone — group chats, brunch plans, spontaneous nights out — although looking back, the friendship was definitely rooted in partying and bottomless mimosas more than meaningful connection. At one point, I brought up taking a trip together — I think it was New York Pride. Everyone was hyped in the group chat. “Let’s do it!” “I’m in!” We planned to book

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